When it comes to sex, teens are confronted daily with mixed signals from their peers. ABC news reports:
There’s a greater dichotomy in teens’ personal aims for sexual relationships, and the perceived aims of those around them. Most teens, 72 percent, say they’re more interested in a committed sexual relationship with a steady partner than in casual sex with no attachments. But 58 percent think most other teens their age have the opposite interest — a preference for casual sex.
In addition, there is a lack of parental direction for many teens during these most difficult years.
There’s a broad disconnect between parents and teens on this issue. In an ABC News survey of adults, 90 percent of parents said they’ve spoken with their teenagers about sex. In this survey, only 49 percent of teens say that’s so. Clearly, whatever the parents thought was a conversation about sex, the kids didn’t hear it that way.
Add into the morass a growing level of identity fragmentation, which is outlined well by Jeff Buchanan.
We live in a culture addicted to identity labels. We seek to summarize everything essential about an individual in a word, phrase, or 140 characters. With every label and category there comes another level of segregated identity, and nowhere is this more apparent than in the realm of sexual identity.
One can look at the gay community and see the level of identity fragmentation represented in the use of acronyms such as LGBTQIA (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning, Intersex, Ally). The sexual identity label has become a method of reducing individuals to a micro narrative of sexual orientation. In man’s created need to transcend himself, this self-referencing label creates a personal crisis of identity and purpose.
In a culture filled with social pressure, identity fragmentation and a lack of parental guidance; teens have accepted the one value that dominates… “follow your heart.”
In the Movies
In Religious Books
Living for the day, forget about tomorrow
Follow Your Heart (You got to Follow Your Heart)
Any other way can only lead to sorrow
Don’t wait any longer
Follow Your Heart” Lyrics from “Follow Your Heart” by Triumph
If children are left untrained, all sorts of evil will spring up in their hearts and lives. — Charles Spurgeon
For the disciple of Jesus Christ, our charge from God is to live in a way that is diametrically opposed to that of the dominant culture. The Scripture tells us:
The one who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but the one who walks in wisdom will escape. — Proverbs 28:26
So when the dominant message from society is, “follow your heart,” is it any wonder that when it comes to Gender Identity, people have become chameleon’s to the culture?